This thing called love is a crazy emotion, I was having a conversation w/ my homegirl Evanka for about an hour about the wonders of love. We wondered if the idea of unconditional love was just a myth. These days men and women put so many conditions on love, its almost stupid. Everything from height to the brand of foot apparel that are on a person’s feet, these can determine who we love and how we love them.

People close their minds and hearts based on non important material items. Instead of building one another up, we tend to look for what is best for us and only us. Women think what type of job does he have now, what can he do for me now? When a not paying your phone bill this month could be buying you a house in five years. Too many people want immediate payoff and call it love when really it’s just selfishness in a cute outfit.

Men tend to think, her butt isn’t big enough, or she’s just after my money, she doesn’t have her own, while she just may need a little help while she works a bs job and put herself through school so she can stunt on the basic b*tch. We should build one another and bring something to a relationship that is beneficial for the person we are involved with. If both people are always judging from a distance, neither one gets a fair chance to grow into something better.

Instead of judging so fast, we should look for what a person can become, not only what they have right now. Love should not be a list of conditions or a quick scan for flaws. If both people bring effort, patience, and support, a relationship can grow into something better than either of them could make alone. That is how two people stop acting like consumers and start acting like partners. Real love should add value, not just demand it from the start.